Loving yourself : 5 tips to learn to love yourself


Loving yourself is important. Self-love and self-confidence help you make your life so much easier. In this article you'll find tips to get started today.

Loving yourself makes your life more effortless

Learning to love yourself can be tricky – specially if your confidence is low right now. But that doesn't mean it isn't worth it. With a little extra self-love, your whole life will be more fun and effortless.

Learning to love yourself makes it easier to be more successful in your work, your relationships and your personal development. It feels like you can finally swim with the river, instead of against it.

Nice stuff. So let's take a look at some clever ways you can learn to love yourself quickly and easily.

1. Feel grateful for your positive qualities

Sawed off? Perhaps. But you know – nobody puts their television on a huge tree trunk. No, we'll put it on a locker. And cupboards are made of planks – sawn-off pieces of tree. Sawed off is often not so bad.

That which sounds trite is often true. So let's not take it for granted, but let's integrate it into our lives with love: gratitude for our positive qualities.

Because it's easy to point out the things you don't like about yourself. I also find it easy. I know how to point them that way. I find myself too lazy, too fat, too busy, too annoying etc.

But this is just one side of my personality. I also know that I'm sweet, smart, handsome, funny, playful and sociable. And I know those things because other lovely people have told me so.

The point is: you underestimate yourself. And if you know that, then you know that maybe you shouldn't dismiss the positive things that others say about you. But that you better embrace them.

Be happy with the things that make you happy. Don't focus on what you don't like about yourself. Focus on the qualities that help you love yourself.


2. Feel thankful for your success

Failure is part of life. Failure is part of success. He who doesn't fail has tried too little. He who never fails hardly grows.

So don't worry about the things that didn't work out. Don't be blinded by the success that shouldn't have been. Focus your attention on the things you did get done.

You can't love yourself if you always think you're not good enough. You are good enough. And you achieve much more than you dare to attribute to yourself.

Sit down with a notebook and write down what you've accomplished in the past week. From small things (like tidying up your desk) to big things (finishing an assignment at work).

Feel happy and grateful. These are all reasons to love yourself, to consider yourself valuable. So don't ignore them, don't wave them off. Embrace it, and feel grateful.

3. Realize that your loved ones love you

Yes. And it's easy to take this for granted, but it isn't. It's special that there are people who love you. And also realize why these people love you.

These people love you because you're someone to love them.

These people think you're nice, sweet, nice and pleasant to be with. They love you for who you are. Not for who you aren't or for who you want to be. They love you because you're who you're now. Exactly as you are.

Do you find it difficult to grasp this? Then think about how you love others. Think of that good friend who always puts herself down when you think she's great. Or that friend who thinks he's ugly while you see he's beautiful the way he is.

We are always stricter with ourselves than we would ever be with others. It's hard to let that go. But it helps if you at least realize this. Realize that you're apparently worthy of being loved, because there are people who love you.

You don't have to think about that any further. It's what it is. You can put it in perspective. But if you want to love yourself, you better embrace it and feel grateful for it.

4. Know that you're good enough

You know what's fun? Self-acceptance. It's a simple act of pragmatic thinking.

  • Right now you're as you are.
  • You look like you look.
  • You've done what you've done.
  • You think what you think.
  • Your life is as it's now.
  • Whether you think that's good or bad.
  • Whether it makes you happy or sad.
  • Whether you want to change or stay that way.

You can now accept it. Just accept everything as it's now. In this moment, in this place in time and space.

You are you. This is the package. With desirable qualities and undesirable qualities. It's where you're now, who you're now and what you're now.

You can accept this. You don't even have to approve it. You just have to tell yourself: it's what it's - and that's fine. That's good enough for now.

You can see it as a starting point to become a better person, to grow and develop further. But at the same time recognizing that everything is okay as it is.

So accept, give it a try.

5. Do This Crazy Exercise

You've heard this before, and you've laughed about it, and you've brushed it off more than once. But remember: trite doesn't mean it doesn't work. Often just the opposite.

So this is what you want to do if you want to learn to love yourself:

  • Stand in front of the mirror.
  • Look yourself in the eye.
  • Say to yourself, "I love you, I accept you as you are."
  • Feel how weird this feels.
  • Repeat the exercise a few times a day until it doesn't feel weird anymore.
  • That's all. Convince your subconscious of a "new truth" by simply saying it to yourself often. Use it as a mantra: I love myself, I love myself, I love myself.

It sounds crazy but it works. And no one needs to know that you're doing this exercise. You don't even have to tell me. All people will see is that after a few weeks you'll start to glow. That you've more self-confidence and that you've clearly started to love yourself more.

And that's a beautiful thing. So give it a try. It's worth it.

Find online course that learn you how to love yourself more!

Want more tips to learn to love yourself more? In my research I found a lot of online courses available..

It will learn you how to believe that you're good enough and discover how you can make your whole life more effortless and more fun with a few clever techniques.

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